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I can't stop googling every idea that pops into my head!

9/30/2022

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Pre-game Questions: Are you ready to make a change? Are you feeling like it's heading towards an addiction, or otherwise having consequences in your life that you cannot stand any longer? If so, then read on for a solid framework of habit evolution that will honestly fix this for you. But if you're not ready, you won't stick to the steps, so you should step back and first consider the impacts of your behaviour, and what they will lead to in the long term if they continue. Maybe it's not that big a problem, maybe you're in denial about that, or maybe this is a time of well-earned break and you are really excited to be learning about subjects right now. All those possibilities are valid, and only you can know for sure.

Another common reddit post:
​How do I stop letting instant access to infinite information distract me from what I should be doing with my time?

Here's my response, that summarizes the process I have optimized over time:
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Build a habit that is an interrupt to your existing habit. Start with something so easy it's silly not to do it, and then ramp it up in terms of difficulty once the habit is established.
We are a whole set of habits, and those unconscious patterns can run our lives, or we can choose to change them. Everyone is recommending Atomic Habits, because he's done a great job of synthesizing what was being talked about for years prior, but the gist of the matter is getting good at practicing habit formation. And that skill allows you to leverage tiny successes into big momentum
So, for your example (and something that I have used effectively in the past on myself and helped others stay accountable to) is instead of googling your ideas right away, work on these habits in order
  1. have a notepad where you write down what it is you want to google before you're allowed to google it
  2. after googling it, cross it out and write down how much time that took (estimates are fine)
  3. before you google it, pause for 5 seconds. Bonus points if you say "I am able to resist googling things immediately after I have the idea"
  4. before you google it, defer that impulse and do some other small & useful task for 5 minutes. Like email, writing out next steps on your active project, some dishes, whatever.
  5. defer your googling of the list contents to a specific period of the day (I would use evenings after my best brainpower was spent on important things I needed focus for. Because it has a bunch of dopamine rewards and is entertainment-adjacent). So you're basically making a list through out the day and then committing to do it later when it's actually a better time to be doing it.
  6. defer your googling to the next day, or even later in the week
  7. when you are about to start your calendar scheduled googling session, decide which of these things are actually still important to google. (It was through this step that I was able to eliminate a whole bunch of stuff that, while it would be fun, wasn't connected to my short term or long term goals in any way. I have tonnes of interests, but it's been more fulfilling when I can continually point those interests back to a set of themes that I'm most excited about)
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Mad at yourself for not being productive, but that doesn't help? Try this

9/19/2022

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I see this come up a lot in coaching people: they want to be productive, so they try to leverage their negative emotions to spurn themselves into action. It seems to work great for procrastination - so much so that most people come to rely on that deadline crunch for motivation. Stress is real and useful. But if used chronically can really burn you out. Same thing with other negative emotions.

It usually looks like anger. You get worked up in a negative emotion, and anger is the one that actually leads to action. But with time I've come to see its roots more in digust. Cultivation of a genuine distaste and dislike of the situation, which is then boiled until its anger and reaches a threshold upon which you have to act.

Problem with these negative emotions, is that far too often, they're not used accurately enough. Especially if you're turning it back towards yourself. You're angry at yourself? Okay maybe it feels like that, but what are you really angry at? Who you are? Or the situation you're stuck in?

The problem with using negative emotions against yourself is that it gets in the way of self-acceptance, self-love and appreciation. And we genuinely need those positive emotions for a sense of self-worth that encourages agency, resilience, grit and growth. You can't eat negative emotions - they're starving you of the energy you need. Positive emotions do give you energy. But just like it's hard to make yourself cook when you're exhausted, negative emotions are way easier to access in low periods.

So, in regards to all this and your productivity, I invite you to consider:
What are you actually disgusted at? The situation that's leading to continued inaction?
Can you love and accept yourself, while simultaneously being dissatisfied and disgusted about how it's being handled? How would you reconcile both of those being true? Get specific on what you don't like, but also reinforce what you do like. This level of emotional clarity will allow you to release the dread of engaging with those emotions - because you don't have to suddenly question your identity or purpose, you just have to attack the external problem.

It's okay to be dissatisfied with a situation, but say nice things about yourself okay?
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How do I focus on my work?

8/20/2022

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This question pops up regularly on the subreddit I'm often helping out on r/getdisciplined. Here was my semi-hypnoticly paced, step by step instructions to get better at focusing:

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